Suggestions for Winning Custody and Keeping Cost Down
1) Don't hire a woman attorny to represent you.
2) Don't bang on the ex's door
3) Don't answer vindictive emails with sentences. Reply in 3 words or less with kindness, or not at all. Learn to use the erase button or delete button prior to selecting send.
4) Politely hang up on vindictive, confrontational telephone calls
5) Consider God as your partner, find a good church to attend
6) Accept her for who she is, not who you want her to be.
7) On day one you are to ask for your children's rights and your rights under the 9th 10th and 14th Amendments to the US Constitution. This is your only argument to present. You must understand that court is about your rights, not your wants. Judges can deny your wants, but they can't deny your rights. You are to ask that the children's rights to love both parents or the parent they choose is to be granted. You have a right to protect these children, love these children and the children have this right to be loved and protected by you. This is your only argument for custody. You must be ready for an appeal on day one. Challenge the judge with the constitution.
8) Rule 75 is un-constitutional. Your first day in court, when asking for your rights, you must notify the State Att General of Ohio that you are contesting the legality of Rule 75. You must notify the judge, magistrate, opposing counsel and the guardian. If you fail to follow this then you face "collateral estople" or tuff luck in lay-men's terms. When the judge see's this, her/his eyes will roll. But your saying that you are demanding at the least equal custody and contesting the current system. Be ready to dig in for a fight. If you wait till the custody hearing, you already lost this point. You also are saying that giving mom full custody is stripping you of your rights. You are to ask for full custody, don't be shy.
9) You are asking for your rights. On your right shirt lapel, wear an American Flag pin or sticker. The right side because you are telling the court you expect your rights to love and protect your children to be respected. Right?
10) I only respected my last attorney, if you want his name, email me from the Dad's America Ohio Page. He covers all of Ohio. It's never to early to switch. It can be too late to switch. But, if you hire him, trust him and don't bother him. He is a busy man. He knows what he has to do.
Here are some suggestions to keep cost down.
1) Don't mail, email or call your attorney unless the children are in danger. The court doesn't care about he said she said or they said. You concentration from day one must be the constitution and not on items of descretion of the judge. Most judges don't care if your kids have holes in their shoes. Each time you contact your attorney he will bill you. Each email he reads cost you money. Each phone call is recorded as a cost. He knows the constitution make sure he has a copy of the 9th 10th and 14th Amendments. Give it to him.
Get your attorney a copy of the Galluzo vs Galluzzo briefs from the US Supreme court in Cincinnati Ohio and make that your only concern. This is your only chance to win custody. You have no other need for communication with your attorney. He will be in connection with opposing counsel, the guardian ad litem and he will be charging you for things you never even expected. If he even thinks about your case, writes a motion, or calls opposing counsel, you get charged.
2) Copies cost money. Any time they request copies make 5 of each and give them to your attorney. You can otherwise pay $150.00/hr to let his secretary to do the work. And that bill can grow faster than you think. You can't prove how long your attorney's secretary spent at the copier, so don't let them stand there.
3) Pay your child support or at least pay something. Don't give them a chance to jail you and cost you your job. As long as you make an honest effort, you cannot be jailed. When you blatantly ignore them, well then you made a mistake. They are your kids, support them.
4) Guardian Ad Litems are in it for the money. Most are single or divorced moms who dislike men. Don't talk to the guardian ad litem. Every call you make cost money. They don't listen to men. They hurt your children by their actions. Write the Ohio Senate and ask for the removal of the guardian ad litems from the domestic courts. Don't tell the guardian how bad mom is as a mother. Don't tell her how she treats the children. You are to focus on ignoring the guardian ad litems and this my friend will save you money and possibly your children..
If you don't listen to any other point I make, please live this one as your main goal. Ignore the guardian, don't say a word to her. She will twist anything you say to use against you. If they don't know you, how can they testify against you? Leave them no knowledge of who you are. Don't ask them to come to your home. It does no good. You can shoot them down in court if you prove they ignored you.
How does a judge make extra money? Do you believe that judges get money under the table from attorneys? Do you believe graft and corruption exist? If you do then consider the following thoughts. Well, if you want to win, you have to be respectful to answer to the court.
A motion to request your documents is made from opposing counsel. You don't answer in a timely manner so they drag you into court on contempt charges. You are fined $1,000.00. Now you must consider who gets this money? So, answer on time and answer all request for production of documents as simple as:
Page 1 question 1: I never had those documents in my possesion. Last I seen them the ex had them in her hand. I have no knowledge what she did with them.
Page 1 question 2: My employer has these documents I do not nor have I ever had those documents in my possesion. (don't produce documents you don't have or spend money producing them)
Page 1 question 3: I destoy all carbon copies of my checks for security and always have. They are not valid documents accepted by this court.
Page 1 question 4: copies of checks: My bank does not send me copies of checks. Therefor I have never had these documents in my possesion. I have attached a signed noterized statement giving opposing counsel the right to request any and all checks from the time period of Jan 1,2007 thru Nove 22, 2007 at her own cost. (if applies) Jill (your ex tobe) has equal rights to this bank account and thus can produce these without my intervention and could have done so anytime her attorney requested them.
Page 1 question 5: copy of my pay stubs are attached.
Page 2 question 6: copy of my insurance policy is attached
Page 3 question 7: I have requested copies of my pension statement and will forward to my attorney upon receipt. I am awaiting their response. Include a copy of the request letter.
Note each question in a word document and answer each question. If you don't understand a question write your attorney each one and ask for clearifation. But, while he is getting an answer, you provide your best vague answer you can... Turn the request in on time.
The production of documents is the most costly issue you will face. Anything you copy, make 5 copies so your attorney does not have to. Sort them, put cover pages on each bundle and hand to your attorney as quickly as you can so that you can not be fined and add to a judge's pocket change. Answer all questions on seperate Itemized pages and don't leave a single one out, or get ready to reach for your wallet and send a judge on their next vacation. That is, if you believe that corruption does exist in the courthouse.
Beat them at their own game.... Be smart, but don't be a smart ass when responding... Keep it simple and answer all production of document request.....completely... Use the money you saved to take your vacation with the kids.... You can either pay $100.00 plus your time to collect and copy these documens or you can pay your attorney $150.00/hr to do it. It's your choice but if this battle goes on for a long time, you could be producing documents many times and it adds up.
Ok now what about you. How do you deal with life during this ordeal? What would you be doing if you were not involved with this divorce? Would you be going fishing? Do you like to go golfing? Were you ever involved with helping others? Now is the time to focus on your own health. Go walking, jogging or join a health club. This country has amply oppertunity to offer yourself to others. Don't worry about meeting the next woman in your life. She will appear someday out of no where. Many organizations are looking for you today. I teach religion class to youngsters. I go to bible group. I work with inner city kids.
I go fishing when I can afford it. This year wasn't so good in 2007. Court was expensive. But I went for walks. I rode my bicycle. I read Peter and the Star Catchers. The library is a good place to read all the magazines you can't afford. My children are involved with sports and school. I go and I enjoy their lives. Camping is as inexpensive a vacation as any. You have to eat, you can cook on a fire. You only have the cost of gas to go and campsite fees.
Ok, now the biggest part. Wo is me doesn't get it. I know sometimes you will break down. If you didn't then you aren't grasping reality. Divorce hurts and loss of time with the kids is the worst. But if you involve yourself with others then you'll have less time to feel sorry about your situation that will eventually resolve itself. It could takes years to end. Mine took 6 years plus. 7 years if you consider the life at home prior to the seperation. Eventually it will be over and you will feel better. Are you breathing? The park has friends you haven't seen in a while. Go watch a baseball game and you will be surprised who you might see.
I promise you that you will be a better person if you keep friends in your life. I'm not talking about drinking buddies. I'm talking about friends. Go knock on a door of someone. To have friends, you have to be one.
Now your kids need you too. There is no reason for you not to go to their sporting events. The kids will know you are there and that will be a big part of their lives. So go and have fun and be the person God intended you to be. Be yourself. You're a good guy, some woman is looking for you right now. Your kids are hoping you will be there. Some child doesn't have a father that cares about him/her. Go be some child's dad, even if it isn't the dad you thought you would be.